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Wounds That Whisper
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Wounds That Whisper: Unmasking the Many Faces of Trauma
By Dr Barbara Louw
Today, words like trauma and stress are often thrown around casually — sometimes to describe a frustrating shopping experience or a missed opportunity. While this may seem harmless, it subtly dilutes the true weight of trauma, which isn’t merely inconvenience or irritation. It is the deep wounding that leaves us aching in ways that words struggle to carry.
When we rush to label, we lose the art of listening. We start responding from presumption instead of presence. Trauma is not just something you “get over” — it lingers, whispers, and reshapes one’s sense of self, purpose, and safety.
Trauma Isn’t Always Loud
It doesn’t always come with sirens or scars. Trauma can stem from circumstances that leave one powerless — a diagnosis, an unforeseen betrayal, or the slow decay of a once-supportive relationship. For many, the hurt hides in the familiar: a household that feels like walking on eggshells, subtle put-downs disguised as humour, or love delivered with conditions.
Some people live under one roof but feel utterly alone. They lack someone they can safely confide in. Their needs are frequently dismissed, leaving them feeling “in the way” or “too much”. Over time, these recurring emotional wounds shape how they understand love, worthiness, and normality.
Many carry paradoxical memories of childhood — moments of joy tangled with shadows of neglect or control. Emotional chaos becomes familiar territory, and self-worth is traded for survival. The past quietly scripts beliefs: My needs don’t matter. Vulnerability is dangerous. Chaos is normal.
Why Help Feels Hard
Those who’ve spent a lifetime as caregivers, fixers, or peacemakers often struggle to ask for help. They’ve been conditioned to prioritise others, to believe their wellbeing is optional. This silent narrative tells them that seeking support is weakness, that they must be self-sufficient at all costs.
These wounds manifest in low self-esteem, relational uncertainty, and spiritual emptiness. “I’m fine,” they say — not because they are, but because explaining the weight they carry feels like another burden. Finding language for emotional pain takes courage many were never taught to wield.
A Journey Toward Wholeness
Trauma wears many masks, but healing invites us to remove them with grace. While we cannot revise the past, we can respond differently to the present and rewrite our future. The invitation is wholeness — not perfection, but purposeful restoration.
It begins when we thirst for more: for healing, for hope, for righteousness. When we reach beyond pain to embrace the fullness of life, we discover we are not defined by what wounded us — we are restored by what we choose to pursue.
“Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.” — Matthew 5:6 NIV
It is time. Time to become well. Time to live whole.
Trauma-sensitive Pastoral Counselling is available on a fee-for-service basis.
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Suicide - The Painful Topic
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Suicide - The Painful Topic
Death by suicide is neither impulsive, cowardly, vengeful, controlling, nor selfish. There is more to this tragic phenomenon than meets the eye.
It is a myth that suicide is an impulsive, spur-of-the-moment whim. In most of the situations that we encounter the person openly told friends and family, often for years, that he/she felt depressive and suicidal. Years before his death, he attempted suicide by overdose and frequently discussed the incident subsequently. There is a chance that he has visited various websites about suicide and depression. Sometimes there are light-hearted comments or jokes about killing himself.
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